Stupid Poverty: You Can't Push a Rope

(A guest post from our friend, Kurt Kandler of The 410 Bridge)

[This is the second in a series of blog posts that might just change the way you think about poverty and engaging the poor.]

For the past 10 years I’ve been using a metaphor with poor communities around the world. At many of our first meetings with local leaders I’d ask them to hold one end of a rope, and I would hold the other end. I’d then use the rope to describe our relationship by attempting to push the leader forward by pushing the rope. The illustration would get lots of laughs.

The solution was obvious: in order for us to go anywhere together, the leader had to pull me. He also had to know where he was going; meaning he was a good leader with a vision. And if I wanted to follow, then we could go a long way together.

The illustration, while simple, has been effective. Unfortunately, it’s a major blind spot in the West with how we engage the poor.

We (the West) don’t ask. Even if we do, we typically don’t listen.

We have the money and the idea, and therefore we think it should be done our way.

We know better, and they (the poor) should be grateful for our help.

But what if we paused, and instead of rushing to the solution we became learners? What if we truly saw ourselves as guests and co-laborers? What if we actually believed that the people we were trying to help were the solution, not a problem to be solved?

The answer is simple and we see it happening in 40+ communities in East Africa and Haiti. Communities mobilize without us. They own both their problems and the solutions. They sustain the solutions on their own, without help from outsiders.

It really is true, but frankly, that’s the easy part. The hard part is on our side of the bridge. We in the West tend to be impatient. We have a love affair with efficiency. Time has authority in our world — we expect things to happen quickly and efficiently — because after all, it’s our time and money that made this happen, right?


Here’s an actual story of what this looks like. It’s just one of many.

Several years ago, a group of American doctors visited one of The 410 Bridge’s communities to work in a health clinic that the community built with many of their own resources. It was from this trip that I came to learn just how well the leaders in the community understood the rope metaphor.

The volume of patients who visited the clinic on the first day was much smaller than any of the doctors expected. So they asked the local leaders, “Why aren’t more people coming to receive medical care?”

“Probably because they cannot pay,” their hosts replied.

This was an unacceptable answer, the doctors felt, and they told the leaders that they hadn’t traveled so far at such great sacrifice and expense to charge money for their medical care. They were on a mission trip and they expected to offer their services for free.

Their hosts clarified as graciously as they could that, no, they did not plan to pay the doctors, but for the clinic to survive, they had to charge a small fee to cover the resident nurse, security guard, and most importantly any medications. But the doctors refused to listen. Their church was a sizable donor to the project and they simply would not offer their assistance any other way, thinking, once again, that they really were helping. The local leaders stood firm at first, but as almost always happens, they eventually relented to the wishes of their guests, and the next day huge crowds showed up for free medical care.

The rumblings of frustration in the community reached my office within a week after the self-satisfied doctors returned to their practices in the States. They left the clinic having dispensed all of the medication, and leaving the community with no way to replenish their stock or pay their staff.

During my next visit, only weeks after the doctors had departed, I attended a spirited meeting with the leaders. They asked me, “You say that this clinic is ours and we must sustain it on our own. Yet when you Americans come, you act as if it is yours.” They continued, “So, please explain … is this project ours, or is it yours?”

I told them that it was theirs and that we would make it right. I was grateful that our friends were bold enough to confront me and to challenge the Western donors.

Today, the community of Kwambekenya continues to sustain their clinic without outside resources. They’ve done the same with their water project and education and discipleship programs.

In 2015, Kwambekenya “joyfully and thankfully released” us to help their neighbors because they didn’t require our assistance anymore. They now see that they have been created by God with a purpose, and he has given them the gifts and resources they need to thrive on their own.

How great is that?!

The 2017 Stupid Poverty Challenge is designed to mobilize youth to impact the lives of poor communities, especially in hurricane-ravaged Haiti. The Stupid Poverty Challenge campaign begins January 1, 2017 and culminates with a “Stupid Bowl Party” on February 5. We’d love your church or school to get onboard.

You can register and get more information at

In the meantime, check back for the next in the series of Stupid Poverty blog posts.

Kurt Kandler
Executive Director
The 410 Bridge

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